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July 27, 2010

Living With a Hypochondriac

After more than 20 years of living with a hypochondriac, I am at the end of my rope. Just weeks after burying my father who had died from an excruciating battle with stomach cancer, my husband began believing that he had cancer, and no amount of medical testing can convince him that his acid reflux will not eventually kill him. This has been going on for over six months, and I really don't know what to do. While he recognizes that he has an anxiety disorder, he refuses to go to treatment saying that his type of anxiety is "the worst" and therapy can't help him. I love my husband dearly, but after seeing my father die of real cancer, my husband's imaginary cancer is just too hard for me to handle. He has imagined he had cancer many times over the years (skin, testicular, prostate...), but each time he gets over his cancer scare just seems to lead him to some other issue. Advice?

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July 2, 2010


I am worried always, right now I am worried about cancer. Though i am 26, from pretty stellar genetic stock, and I know it isn't a very likely scenario, i still worry. (Funny, our family doesn't have a lot of illness, but it DOES come jam-packed with anxiety problems.)

I make up scenarios in my head, and connect small symptoms that are probably nothing, and I make myself believe it IS something. I obsess, I turn my life inside out and upside down and ruin everything. I jsut want it to stop.

Sometimes, I like to say this to myself, it offers some comfort:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

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Total Anxiety

A few months ago I had post nasal drip and it was hard to talk. I go to the doc and meds are prescribed but they don't help. I feel like at times something is in my throat. Eventually, I tried to put another symptom in the mix muscle tension in face and go on line to Symptom Check. Mistake! Of couse they have all kinds of terrfing conditions. So now I think I have cancer. So I go to my doc and she reminds that the facial senstions are from my anxiety and I don't have cancer. I trust her explicetly. But I can't stop obsessing. I had been diognosed with OCD and GAD several years ago and they proscribe Celexa and it helped. But several monts ago I did not like the side effects and slowly stopped it and it has been about 5 days. What is so wierd is othr then my throat I feel great. Can anyone offer any advice or encouragment? I am so glad I have a place to vent. As may of you may know, most people don't understand and think your exagerating. Thanks for reading. Paul

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